The year 2017 started a little over twenty-four hours ago. Within the next six days, 25% of all New Year’s resolutions will be completely pushed the side because of some obscure reason. It’s sad that 25% of the changes that we say will make never happen. Why is that?
I’m sure we could theorize about a million different reasons why people don’t stick with their resolutions. Everything from not having the time, not having the money, not having the freedom, not having the resources and much more. I see the real reason as being something far simpler. I see it as the way that we tell ourselves about the change that we plan to make. All statements about change can be made powerful or weak depending on the structure of the sentence.
Words have immense power. Just look at the impact that speechwriters and orators have had throughout history. When statements are crafted in a certain way we are poised to take action upon it. It’s similar to writing in an active voice versus a passive one. Want to make an impact? Keep reading.
The weakest of these statements is the “I want” phrase. This statement has no action involved. We want many things in life, however, wants are not typically acquired unless minimal effort is needed.
Example: I want to make $80k this year.
This is a step better than the “want” statement. It implies doing something, however at less than your maximum effort. Trying is reserved for taking a bite of food. It’s nothing more than a sample.
Example: I’ll try to earn $80k this year.
I am willing / I am not willing.
I see these phrases as the most power. The imply that you are fed up with the old way and ready to take action and acquire your goal.
Example: I am willing to give up TV and invest my time into learning a revenue generating skill.
Example: I am not willing to earn less than $80k this year.
In the first example, it states that something must be given up and something new acquired. The second example, to me, feels the most powerful. While it does not describe how this $80k per year will be earned, it states that the existing method is not working.
Time Magazine has published the Top 10 completely broken New Year’s resolutions. It’s a safe bet that some of your resolutions are found here. What I want you to do is to take this list and rewrite it with “I want”, I’ll try”, “I am willing” and “I am not willing” statements. Not surprisingly, the first one is “lose weight and get fit”. Let’s rewrite this one together.
I want to lose weight and be in better shape.
I’ll try to lose weight and be in better shape.
I willing to reduce my calorie count to 1800 per day to lost weight and be in better shape.
I am not willing to be overweight and out of shape.
Actually, let’s take a different approach on that last one. If we change this to “I am not willing to fit into a size 40 waist any longer.” It has a bit more of an impact. We can even combine the willing / not willing statements to create something even more powerful. Like this:
I AM NOT WILLING TO FIT INTO A SIZE 40 WAIST ANY LONGER. I AM WILLING TO REDUCE MY CALORIE COUNT TO 1800 PER DAY TO BE IN BETTER SHAPE.
Once you have modified the wording structure on the commonly failed resolutions, rewrite your own. Post them, share them, and ask someone to help keep your accountable.